The show that I chose to watch is “ Louis C.K.”. It is a show about a comedian. When I turned off the sound, this was what I thought. The episode that I watched, Louis was having a conversation with his daughter. The daughter was telling him a story and she seemed to like her story. Louis was listening while fixing some boxes. He stopped working for a second to look at his daughter with a confusing facial expression. Then he went back to work, and the daughter continued her story. In the afternoon, Louis was cooking, and made a mango popsicle for the other daughter, and the one who told him the story in the morning came to ask for one. Louis was rolling his eyes while the little girl was saying something constantly to him, and finally she got two pieces of chocolate and was asked to leave the kitchen. I think Louis was surprised to see how verbal his little daughter was, when she told the story, and he was impressed by the words that she chose to use. In this afternoon, I thought it was the other girl’s birthday, as there were a lot of food on the table, and that was also why she got the popsicle. The little girl begged for something, and she made Louis upset and impatient any more. That was why Louis gave her two pieces of chocolates and sent her out of the kitchen. I assumed the plot based on their facial expressions and their behaviors. Louis was rolling his eyes, looking at his little daughter with a confusing expression, he was busy making the dinner, and he was sending his daughter out of the kitchen with no patience by pushing her. The little daughter liked her story as she kept smiling when she was talking, and she was upset when she did not have the popsicle by frown his eyebrows. She smiled again, when she got the chocolate.
I think my assumption will be more correct, if I watched a show that I am more familiar with. The reason for that is I know the personalities and the relationships of the characters better. I watched a show that I was really familiar with without any sound, and it was so much easier for me to know what was going on, and the reactions of each character.
My aha moment was when I turned on the sound I figured out why only one daughter got the popsicle, and why there was a special scene of all the yummy food on the table. The reason for that is because the story that the little girl told to dad in the morning. She missed her mum, thought her mum was a better cook, and wanted to go back to stay with mum. Dad was upset about what she said, and he made a feast in the afternoon. It was not anybody’s birthday, but was an effect of a little girl’s comment.
I believe it was a good lesson to learn that communication is a combination of verbal and non-verbal expressions. Sometimes, we will be involved in our schemas that will not see or hear the truth. It is important to get out of our schemas to give ourselves opportunities to get to know people without any biases or prejudgements.
I learned a lot from this assignment, and I enjoyed reading your blog a lot. Like you, I really understand the importance of listening to what others are saying in order to truely get their message. By listening, I mean listening to their non-verbal cues. While I always understood the importance of non-verbal cues, this assignment has brought it full circle. I realize that a simple crossing of my hands gives the listener the idea that I'm disgusted or just do not care; I never was aware of this before. Thanks for sharing!
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ReplyDeleteThank you for the post. It is important to get out of our schema. Sometimes I think my age has a lot to do with my bias and seeing things differently than others, but not really, everybody is different and I think it is how and where we grew up that affects our bias and schema. So it could be a little "nature" and "nurture" on how we see sitcoms.